As a woman I think I have what it takes
to inform all the guys
out there on some great ways to turn off
a woman. Yes, I said
"turn off", not "turn on". Sad, but
true, some of you have a few
habits and other things that can really
get under a girl's skin.
Every turnoff I am going to mention is
one that I have
experienced first hand. These suckers
are as potent to potential
chemistry with the cutie you're dating,
as garlic breath is to a
kiss.
Telling Her About Your Sexual Past
I have very vivid memories of a really
bad date with a guy named
"Darren". We had actually been dating
for about a month when he
had the grand idea of inviting his best
friend out to dinner with
us. That night I quickly learned that
his friend wasn't
exactly...classy. One thing led to
another and he was recounting
what he thought were funny stories about
my date's sexual
history. I learned all about one
particular ex who was rather,
wild in the sack. It was awful. I
couldn't even bring myself to
kiss him for the rest of the night. How
could I ever compare to
HER?
That wasn't the first time I had to
listen to stories about other
girls. Usually it was the guy I was
dating telling me! Men, I
can't stress enough how important it is
that you don't talk about
your sexual past within ear shot of your
date. To be on the safe
side, keep her away from your buddies
who don't know when to keep
quiet. If you can't do that then tell
them not to mention any of
your exes when they meet your new gal.
Bad Foot and Hand Hygiene It is barefoot season as I write this
and that has lead to many
"Ick!" moments. Guys, if your toenails
are longer than her
fingernails there is a problem! A man
should never have the
"whites" of his fingernails or toenails
showing. The "whites"
show when the nail grows past the edge
of the skin.
While we are on the topic of finger and
toenails, please keep
them clean and well manicured. Scabs,
dead skin, hang nails and
blisters are a major passion killer.
There is something about
bad hand and foot hygiene, it is
unexplainably...gross.
Think about this, if you were to fool
around with her, where
would your hands be? If she sees that
your hands are rough,
dirty and scabby do you think she will
want them there? Don't
kid yourselves fellas, women notice
these things.
Bad Grooming Habits Bad grooming goes WAY beyond not
clipping your nails. I
recommend reading Shawna's article for
some great grooming tips
for guys. Bad breath, bad body odor,
dirty clothes, smelly feet,
really dirty socks, a dirty baseball
hat...they all scream
uncleanliness. And when it comes to
getting physical,
uncleanliness is a huge turn off!
Dry, Lizard Lips When a woman is sizing you up for some
potential kissing action
she is going to check out your lips to
see if they are soft and
well moisturized. When I look at a guy
with dry, flaky lips, it
makes me cringe. Keep ample lip balm on
hand wherever you go,
cuz you never know when someone is
checking out your lips.
Talking About Your Drunken Escapades We aren't impressed when you tell us how
"smashed" you were
Friday night. We aren't impressed when
you tell us about how
your drunken state caused you to do such
and such really stupid
thing. We may laugh at your stories,
but most of the time we are
cringing inside. Do you really think
that it is cool or impressive to get so drunk that you beat
up the guy hitting on
your friend, or puked all over the
waitress, or took off your
shirt and danced on the table? Save
these stories for a night
out with the guys and spare her all the
details.
Checking Out Other Women I hope you know about this one already.
What you may not know is
why it bothers us so much. When you
gawk at another women we
can't help but compare ourselves to
her. We look at her and she
is prettier, sexier, more in shape, has
nicer eyes, nicer
clothes, a nicer body, etc. And there
you are, soaking it all
in, and leaving us high and dry. Aside
from the fact that this
is extremely rude, when we compare
ourselves to a woman who
appeals to you and find her coming out
on top then we begin to
feel very unattractive. You may not
even think she is prettier
than your date, but your date will
assume that you think so.
It is comparable to if you were to have
sex with a woman and she
were to then talk about how great her
ex-boyfriend was in bed.
Even though she has not said he was
better than you, you will
compare yourself to him and feel pretty
lousy in assuming that
you are a bad lover. Get my point?
That is comparable to what
happens when you talk about how gorgeous
another woman is.
Being Desperate and/or Clingy I love when a guy pursues me, as I'm
sure most women do. But if
he tries too hard it is an instant turn
off. Don't get me wrong,
it is important to be considerate, call
when you say you will and
show her that she is important to you.
But, if you are calling
everyday or totally and completely
rearranging your schedule to
spend time with her, you are going
overboard.
As a woman all of that sounds appealing
on the surface...wow, he
really likes me. But when I experience
it, I find myself totally
losing interest in the guy. I want to
be important to him, but I
also want to know that he has a life
aside from his time with me,
and that he enjoys that life. After we
are more exclusive I want
to be included in that life, but in the
beginning things are
delicate and you need to give her room
to breath
Dirty Habits This includes smoking, swearing, drugs,
loud burps, obnoxious
comments, picking your nose, etc. 'nuff
said
Not Having Motivation, Drive and Goals This is a big one guys. I'm definitely
not a gold digger, but if
we discuss our goals and you are
perfectly content to work at the
local convenience store for the rest of
your life, and live with
your parents until you get married, then
there's a problem.
There's something not quite right about
a guy in his mid
twenties, or older, who still lives at
home (and is content with
that).
Would you be turned off by a woman who
wasn't interested in
furthering her education beyond high
school and enjoyed spending
her time on the couch watching TV?
There's not much more that I
can say about this one. Just be sure to
have some long term
goals that involve education or moving
forward in the work force.
And follow through on your goals, don't
just sit
around talking about it!
Being Too Dependent On Her Anytime I begin to get the impression
that the guy I'm involved
with will have a total break down if I
break up with him, I start
to feel the need to pull away. I want
to be loved, feel
cherished and know that if we break up
he will be upset :). But,
I don't want to feel like the state of
his sanity is in my hands.
I don't want to have that suspicion that
he will have a nervous
breakdown if I dump him. I've been in
this situation before and
it is not too pleasant. The guilt over
ending it will be enough
to keep her with you long after she
wants to leave. Do you want
to woman to stay with you just because
she feels too guilty to
break up?
I can't speak for the effect this would
have on your long term
girlfriend, but I've experienced it with
men I've only been with
for a couple months. It is way too
much, too soon.
If you don't want her to feel trapped
then don't tell her how
depressed you were before you met her
and how happy she has now
made you, don't tell her you could not
live your life without
her, don't break down when she says she
needs some space, don't
limit your social circle to just her,
don't ask her to never
leave you, etc.
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