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I have lots of negativity in me
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Your question I have lots of negativity in me... What can I do?
Answer
Negativity is a
form of frustration. It is an energy wanting to
find it's way out but not managing to
breakthrough.
Negativity is
something you can live with for many years. This
is why some negative thinking is perfectly okay.
Sometimes you feel
some pain on your left shoulder. This does not
stop you from enjoying your evening. You might
find it slightly disturbing but you did not
reach this breaking point of wanting to do
something about it. You think: time will simply
heal it.
With negativity,
it is the same. You know that your mind is not
100% effective but well, it's not too bad and
you can easily keep it the way it is.
At a certain
moment, you might reach a new milestone: this is
when it becomes too much and you decide to do
something about it. You might realize it
sabotages your life or destroys your chances.
This is the moment
a coach can help. Coaching focuses on
performance. What you have is not good enough.
You want more. Coaching requires an investment
of time, energy and money.
Why? Simply
because change requires energy. When you decide
to shift something you start fighting the
existing patterns. This is your comfort zone; it
is your mind base, your belief system, your mind
patterns, habits and behaviors. If you want to
shift the way your mind functions and put an end
to negative thinking, you have to overcome
natural "freezing" forces.
These forces are
natural preserving forces which stop you from
falling apart. They are what keeps your body
together. They are what sustains your thoughts,
your life, society, etc. They are stabilizing
forces in your mind.
When you decide to
shift something in your mind, you call upon a
new type of energy: It's called renewal power.
This is what drives the cycle of the planets and
seasons. It is the force of evolution which
keeps you moving.
When you decide to
get rid of negative mind patterns, you connect
with a renewal power. This force will have two
effects: the first effect is to destroy useless
existing patterns. It's clearing the space for
the new. The second effect is to create a new
mind set which is conductive for positive
thinking.
Every time you
move forward in your life, you step beyond your
comfort zone. This means taking at least a small
risk. Why is this a risk? Because you might not
really know where you are going. You have
a clear intuitive feeling. Your instincts tell
you that this is the right move. You can't
always reason it but you know it is the right
thing to do. You go ahead and trust your
intuition.
What stops you
from doing that today? The fact that your mind
is already busy with other things. Take again
the example of this pain in your shoulder. It
might be something you are reminded two to three
times a day when you make a wrong move. It does
not stop you from going on, so you simply
tolerate it.
The moment you
take a step and go to your local chiropractor,
you say : "stop", "enough", I don't want to go
on like that. You create time to see your
chiropractor. In other terms, you make it your
priority number 1 at least for a couple of
hours.
With negative
thinking, it is the same: the very reason why it
is there is because a part of you is tolerating
it. It bothers you a bit but your still accept
it.
The moment you
say: "enough!", "I want more!" this is the
moment things start shifting.
Let's go back to
the chiropractor who will help you with your
shoulder. You don't want to deal with just
anyone... You want an expert and if possible the
best expert. You basically want something which
works. If you think acupuncture works better, I
am sure you would go for it as well.
What you want is
simple: results.
You don't want to
invest into something which has little chances
of working. You want to invest when you know you
get results.
Most people who
walk around with lots of negativity fail
in three things:
Isolation is one
of the great limiting forces. It simply means
that you are trying to reinvent the wheel by
yourself. This is fine if you have plenty of
time. On the other hand, if you need to get
there faster because you are ready to move on
and focus on what truly matters, then targeted
support will make a huge difference.
Method?
This is truly the
key! It is to have some form of strategy or
technique to transform negative thinking. Once
you decide to make it your priority number one,
that's the next challenge.
You can try
emotional release therapy, mood enhancers, life
style changes or positive psychology. You can
buy a few books on personal development or
engage yourself on a spiritual journey. There
are many choices. Most of these techniques are
valid to a certain extent. The question is how
to choose? Do you have to try them all?
Use your feelings
and intuition. Your instinct is what guides you
with these choices. It wakes up a feeling, an
impression and you simply go for it. The next
natural step it to trust.
Endless doubts and
hesitations are another form of negative
thinking. The best way to find out is to
experiment.
Now, what I want
to do is save you experimenting time and come
with something which works at 100%. Honestly
would you buy a book where 15 pages are missing?
Unless the product you buy delivers what it
promises, I would say: Move on.
This is why I am
beyond the phase of experimenting. I am not
trying these methods on you. This system has
been tried and experimented earlier.
This method works
using a very simple truth: You have natural
powers you are not using. By powers, I don't
mean magical abilities. Power is one of the most
basic forces in your life. The way you use
it directs your moods and feelings. Your level
of power will dictate the way you feel about
yourself; it will give you as well the energy to
protect your mind space.
The reason why
negative thoughts arise in your mind is simply
because you miss power. A negative thinking loop
is the reflection of an inner conflict. It is
the conflict between two energy realities: on
one hand you have your desire, will power and
ambitions. On the other hand you have a set of
opposing forces which stop evolution from taking
place.
When you increase
your power, you simply give yourself the energy
to breakthrough and win.
Sometimes though
you are not sure if you want this "inner
conflict to end". The idea of winning means that
the conflict is over. The truth is that you can
sometimes get used to this inner battle of
energies. It can be energizing. It creates fire,
stimulates your fighting power and keeps you
going.
Why is it that two
neighbors will keep a conflict alive for 27
years? It's very simple: because a part of them
wants it. A part of human nature enjoys
fighting. It wakes up a force, a conquering
power.
Some people do
base their whole life on this dynamic: they
consciously create conflict to generate energy.
It's part of human nature. They simply don't
know what to do with a flightless
space. Their whole energy base or emotional
foundation evolves around the dynamic of
conflict. In a way conflict is the force which
keeps them alive. Give them peace and they'll
hate it. They'll find a way of creating conflict
again simply because this is what they are used
to. They simply don't known anything else.
This could be your
challenge as well: Negative thinking patterns
generate energy. You might have got used to
this ongoing inner battle and the idea of
shifting this mindscape is somehow scary. Why is
that? Because you might not be sure what is on
the other side. It is like stepping into a new
land.
Your mind has a
natural need to evolve and this is the force
which pushes you to move forward. The moment you
connect with renewal power, your recognize the
freshness of a new breeze.
The moment you
decide to move is a very symbolical one. This
renewal force carries you forward and by
connecting with it, you naturally choose to go
for it.
This inner move is
what makes the real difference. It is an
awakening or a realization of your true
potential.
A coaching session
is the process of helping you connect with your
natural powers. 90% of it simply flows by itself
and there is no actual "technique" involved. I
can give you tools to reinforce and wake up your
power but life itself does its work. You simply
connect with your natural sources of power and
apply them to your life.
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