As men, we have a lot to be proud of. We invented electricity, automobiles, trains, planes, and even put a few footprints on the moon. So why oh why is it that when it comes to women, we have such a hard time figuring them out?

The answer to this question lies in the difference between what women say they want, and what they actually react to. The fact of the matter is that we have learned to trust and take women's verbal requests at face value and never bothered to actually test and observe our subjects.

Here are just a few of the requests women make (cue the violins):

I want a sensitive man.
I want a man to tell me exactly how he feels.
I love it when a man says, "I love you" all the time.
I would never have a one-night stand.
I hate it when a man tries to pick me up.
I hate it when men try to be a challenge.
I want a nice guy.
I would never date a man who plays head games.
I don't like rough sex.
I want a man to show how much he cares for me.
I want a man who devotes all his time to me.

Wow, all these wonderful statements make me feel like crying. But the fact of the matter is that if you analyze a woman's most common request, you'll see that, in most cases, she's actually attracted to the opposite of what she claims to want.

Ask any successful player about this issue and he'll laugh at any man who actually tries to accommodate these wishes. It's the equivalent of signing your own dating death wish.

1- Buying too many gifts
A few weeks ago, I hooked up with a woman in a club who was originally on a first date with another fellow. Imagine; he brought her flowers, a teddy bear and paid for dinner, and I took her home. Poor sap, but it serves him right for not knowing better.

Whenever you give a woman gifts, you're sending a message that you need to buy her affection because you don't think you're good enough as a person. Some women will mistake your good intentions as a weak attempt at manipulation.

Save the romantic gifts for the married life. If she didn't get you anything, why should you spend your money on her? Remember, being a player is all about receiving.

2- Convincing her to like you
I'm a really nice and romantic guy. I'm a great lover and I can guarantee you that you will always be satisfied. I respect women and you will never have to worry about me cheating on you.

Yeah right. She'll never have to worry about you cheating on her because she won't care if you do. Here's a fact: you will never convince a woman to be attracted to you through logic and reasoning. A woman is wired to react to emotions, therefore it's how you act and make her feel that will determine her interest in you.

3- Revealing your cards
I like you a lot. I really, really like hanging out with you. You make me feel so special. I think I'm falling for you. I'm so attracted to you.

Of course you are, that's why you're still dating or banging her. Your presence around her alone should be enough to communicate this message. You don't have to tell her this. She should figure it out on her own. If she still hasn't, then let her wonder if you do -- it's part of what will keep her attracted to you.

4- Having an inferiority complex
I'd like to approach her but I don't think I'm her type. Besides, she looks like she's interested in guys with a lot of cash.

Yes, it's a known fact that having good looks and a fat wallet will definitely help turn a woman's eye in your direction. But that's half the battle. You still need to have a charming personality to take it past the introduction stage.